But there are times when you have to forgive your enemies and love them as your own. This is a lesson that you eventually need to learn, no matter how hard it might seem.

-Sun Tzu, Art of War

Today (2026/09/23), I found myself again in thinking about some people that want to try to ruin my life, that brought hatred again into my heart. After contemplating for a while, I’ve remembered the quote above and I will try my best to forgive the people that make me feel deep hatred.

Forgiveness isn’t the same as forget

I know that many people may ask this:

“Is forgiveness the same as forgetting what happened or what will happen?”

And no, forgiveness has nothing to do with forgetting, you wouldn’t want the same people committing the same behaviours towards you every time, and simply forgetting that. Forgiveness is about continuing with your life, not bringing hatred for past deeds, but remembering what happened. Forgiveness always comes with a lesson to learn, a judgement, if you want people affected by your resolve within your life, and the ability to love even your worst enemy.

Love isn’t always about a relationship

You can love every enemy you have, that doesn’t mean that you love them as a lover. That might be confusing to say or even explain but see the following senario:

Love has several levels and different types of it.

You might not understand what that senario said but believe me, you’ll learn that later in life. We Humans are learners, every interaction brings a new thing to think about. With that you navigate in life, with judgement about what is going to happen next with a subject and what will you do about that. That intrinsic value is hard coded on your brain and it is automatic. A thing that you do to a 9 year old might reveal itself in his twenties.

A person isn’t to blame because they don’t want to talk to you because you’ve abused their trust. But in that person, they might have forgiven you already but, due to repetition of the same act, they decided to not engage with you anymore. It’s a cruel act? Actually no, it’s self preservation at it’s best.

My journey in this

I’ve decided, at least for myself, to forgive an person, that might not deserve that forgiveness, but I’ll do it for my sake. I’m enough of having hatred in my heart every time this person does something that might bring a toll on my time and health. I’m better than revenge, I’m better than a person that his whole life is surrounded by trying to bring me harm. And for that, I’ll let go of my seek for revenge just because, this person will become only a footnote on a page of my life.

I will also bring, in the near or far future, a forgiveness in person to that one. I prefer to live my life without any regrets and revenge always comes with regrets. I don’t want that for my life anymore.

Love and forgiveness towards who?

I cannot say who is the target of this. Opinion articles are not a place to shame anyone, it’s for you to give your opinion towards some subject or some item for example. You may give your opinion towards some life events but that doesn’t make you an expert on that matter. You also can give advice with this type of article, but isn’t always recommended.

Some people, still on opinions matter, may feel that you wrote something towards them and, at least I’m Portugal, you may have to deal with legal trouble. Your opinion matters, like mine matters, but you, and I for the fact, have to be careful with your wording.

With my blog, I never intended to call-out anyone and l, for the fact, never did. Some people might think that I did this or I’ve directed at them hatred or something else, but in fact I never did. Unfortunately, some people might think that something I wrote was against someone, but I never intended or done anything against someone. I can ramble, I’m on my right, but it seems that I will have someone targeting my back for everything I gave an option. And for that, if I ever meet this people, I’ll try my best to forgive them. Forgiveness doesn’t come in a second and people need to know that.

What will I do now?

I’ll try to find, within reasonable reach, the people that got offended with something that I said and explain to them that it wasn’t towards them and that I will try my very best to forgive this people.

I cannot reach everyone, so I don’t have a long reach out of the island that I live in. To the hatred I had before towards someone, I’ll forgive them and I will not do any action against them. I know that I have articles, opinion ones, that I’m too angry and that brought me only things to think about. So for those articles, I won’t do anything that those articles referred.

I want to start to have peace in my life, and to do that, I’ll have to start forgiving the ones that wronged me. It will be an internal battle but one that I’m willingly to go.

So to anyone that felt that I’ve attacked them:

I’ll forgive you.